Write a Valentine’s love letter to yourself?
That might sound strange. Yet when you think about it—when was the last time you truly appreciated yourself? Not for what you do, but for who you are?
Valentine’s Day is all about love. We shower our partners, friends, and family with affection. Oftentimes we forget the most important person in our lives—ourselves.
We forget to say, “Hey, I see you. I appreciate you. I love you.”
So this year, let’s change that. Let’s take a few minutes, grab a pen, and write a love letter to YOU. Not a to-do list. Not a self-improvement plan. Just a letter filled with kindness, appreciation, and love.
Self-love isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.
There are varied benefits to a Love Letter to You. This letter will remind you of your strengths, resilience, and all those little things that make you… you.
Writing makes you feel seen, valued, and loved.
That kind of love will boost your confidence, reduce stress, and even increase creativity.
It helps you stay present, become more self-aware, and deepen your emotional intelligence.
It reminds you that no matter what happens, you will always have your own back.
So this Valentine’s Day, let’s make a new tradition of writing a love letter to yourself.
At the end of the day, the longest relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.
How to Write a Love Letter to Yourself
1. Pick Your Medium
Hand-written letters are one of the best ways to write a love letter. But, if you are not a fan of hand-written letters, then there are other formats as well:
- Journaling for self-discovery and self-love.
- Use your phone’s notes app and jot down love notes.
- Type it out on your laptop
- Record a voice memo if you connect more with spoken words.
There’s no right or wrong way—choose what makes you feel comfortable.
2. Set the Mood
Give yourself a distraction-free space to really be present with this exercise:
- Block out 15-30 minutes in your schedule.
- Find a cozy spot—your favorite chair, a peaceful park, or a quiet café.
- Light a candle, play soft music, or sip on your favorite drink to make it feel special.
Think of it as a self-love ritual rather than just another thing to do.
3. Use Third-Person Perspective
Writing to yourself in the third person can feel more natural and encouraging. Start with something like:
Dear (your name), I love the way you…
This approach helps quiet self-criticism and allows you to see yourself with more kindness. Research shows that third-person self-talk can even reduce stress and improve emotional balance.
4. Decide What to Say
Not sure where to start? Here are a few prompts to guide you:
- What do you appreciate about yourself? Think of traits like resilience, humor, or kindness.
- What brings you joy? Reflect on the little things that light you up.
- What are you proud of? Acknowledge your growth, big or small.
- How do you feel loved? Recognizing your love language can help you nurture yourself better.
- Acknowledge everything you’ve accomplished in your life. Everything includes the big things and the small things. You’ve done more than you think you have.
- Appreciate how you have changed over the years. Be in awe of those things you worked towards and accomplished.
Be gentle. Be kind. Be real.
Can’t write a love letter to yourself?
Loving yourself isn’t always easy. In fact, it might feel uncomfortable. Maybe self-love feels out of reach right now.
That’s where the Belief Code for self-love helps.
Our beliefs shape how we see ourselves.
By working with the subconscious mind, we can replace self-doubt with self-acceptance. Instead of old, limiting beliefs, we create new ones—ones that uplift, empower, and support self-love.
Self-love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a belief system. And with the right tools, you can change it for the better.
Want to learn more? Let’s chat. Book a free 15-minute consultation with a professional belief code practitioner and let’s begin your journey to self-love.
